For most people, the word "discipline" has an immediate negative

connotation. It implies something imposed from the outside,

doesn't it? It means that someone or something is controlling or

demanding, neither of which are particularly appealing. When we

do think about self-discipline, it, too, often has a negative

spin because it is seen as difficult and contributing to

failure. Can you think about it differently?

Self-discipline is nothing more than keeping your commitments to

yourself. If you say something is important and significant to

you, then take this little test:

Does that something that you SAY is important show up a

significant number of times in either your calendar, or your

checkbook, or both? If it does not, then, where is the

demonstration that it is important to you? Do you regularly do

what you say has value to you?

I'm sure you understand the picture. I believe behavior, not

words. How about you?

So, self-discipline arises from self-esteem and self-esteem is

enhanced by self-discipline. Then, it seems natural that you

take a look at your self-esteem. Do you believe that you are

worth spending the time and/or money on? Do you get the

"left-overs" of time and resources rather than filling your own

cup? It is not unusual to feel that you are being a "good"

person when you are self-sacrificing. That's because our society

often tells us this is so. Oh, good thinking! The society says

so because everyone else benefits from your self-sacrifice. In

fact, "sacrifice" itself is an interesting concept. The

dictionary says it means "the act of giving up or destroying one

thing for the sake of something else".

Do you really want to be SELF-sacrificing?

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

Keynotes, Seminars & Coaching for entrepreneurs & professionals

who want the motivation & strategies to achieve, to lead and to

live richly. Creator of the Living Richly? Program Host of

Living Richly? on www.wsRadio.ws. Author of OPTIMIZE Your Day!

Practical Wisdom for Optimal Living Optimize Life Now! San Diego, CA

www.OptimizeLifeNow.com