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How To Ask For Anything You Want
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By Matt Bacak
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. I am astonished at the many people who have not achieved theiraims because they simply did not ask how it is done. Think ofall the missed opportunities, frustration pain, and yes, evensuffering people endure because they are not willing, or do notknow how or whom to ask. This article will help you ask foranything. First, let's look at some of the reasons people don'task for what they want. I believe the primary reason peopledon't ask for what they want is plain old-fashioned ignorance. Idon' mean to be offensive, but ignorance in that they just don'tknow. Either they don't know what is available to them becausethey have never been exposed to it, or they are so out of touchwith themselves that they no longer can tell their real needsand wants. Another way ignorance come into play is that manytimes people just don't know who to ask, when to ask or how toask. This may sound simple, but when you find yourself in a newsituation, or new dilemma you often don't know which way toturn. A second hindrance to asking for what you want is thenotion that we should not need to ask. Unfortunately, may peoplewere raised to believe there is something wrong with asking.Some even see asking as a form of weakness or admission offailure. They couldn't be farther from the truth.
Third, many of us do not ask for what we want because of fear ofrejection or embarrassment. Sometimes such fears are based onhurtful incidents form the past, especially during the childhoodyears. Sadly, to avoid rejection and embarrassment many of ussettle for a lifetime of underachievement based on theseunfounded fears.
A fourth consideration in not asking for what you want is thatall too familiar low self-esteem. I have found that many, if notmost of us feel unworthy or inadequate to create the kind oflife we want. As a result, we convince ourselves that our needsand wants are not worth pursuing - so we don't ask.
The fifth reason I believe we don't ask for what we want ispride. Many of us are convinced we need to do everything forourselves and fear we will look foolish or lose respect amongour family and peers if we admit the need for assistance. Noneof these situations should keep you from getting what you wantand need out of live. You must take control of your life byasking for what you want and need. You must begin to believe youcan accomplish anything your heart desires. You need to unlearnsome tired old unproductive beliefs beginning with the fivelisted above. You can learn to overcome these hindrances and askfor anything you want by: n Getting rid of ignorance. Startasking questions now about anything you don't understand. Askpeople how and why they do what they do and ask them why they doit? The difference between success and failure is often assimple as asking how. n Don't worry about what other peoplethink, do or say. Always ask the questions you need answers for.Remember, you will not receive what you don's seek after. nAccept rejection as a part of life. Rejection is a part of humanexistence, accept it and live with it by not taking itpersonally. Keep asking and in time someone will answer. Don'tgive up because you feeling get hurt. Keep moving and asking. nDon't wait until you have reached some imagined degree ofperfection before you ask for help or information. Yourself-worth must be based on what you know about yourself, notwhat other think about you. Ask for what you need or want nomatter what others may think of you. n Put your pride in check.Pride goes before the fall. In other words, don't fail tosucceed because pride caused you to act out of ignorance insteadof knowledge. Ask the questions you need to ask and ask them ofwhom you need to ask. Pride will not get it done. Asking theright questions of the right person will make all the differencein the world for you. Now you are ready to find the answers towhatever questions you have been pondering. Read this articleagain and print it out. Take it with you if necessary, but do,right now, today - begin to ask for anything you want.
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